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Love is a Verb.

February 2010: metroSPIRIT

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Keep Doing What Attracted You to the Other Person

My sister and her husband are one of my favorite couples. Several years after they were married, I asked her how they kept the spark they had so obviously alive. She said, "We keep doing what attracted us to each other in the first place." The way they do that has changed after two children but both continue to remain true to who they were when they met. They make a conscious effort to keep their love alive.

Communication Matters

One of my favorite books is "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. The book explains that we each have our own love language and that the languages are different. Better communication comes from learning the love language of others and understanding our own.

Be a Good Friend

One of my friends recently traveled with me to New York City. As we experienced the thrills of the City, she would regularly text or call her husband of twenty five years to share her delight with him. In each conversation, they talked about what he was doing, what she was doing, and what was going on generally. In observing the conversations, I was most impressed by the total concern and consideration that each had for the other. In all of the time I have known the two of them, I have never heard one say a negative thing about the other.

"The most wonderful of all things in life is the discovery of another human being with whom one's relationship has a growing depth, beauty and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous thing; it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is a divine journey, and one of the most wonderful of all things in life."

-Sir Hugh Walpole

The Spirit of Forgiveness

Forgiveness blesses everything and surrounds us with grace. Forgiveness does not mean an absence of boundaries, standards, and principles. Forgiveness does mean we overlook the errors of others in the sense of not holding things against them and throwing past errors back in their faces on a daily basis. An important part of forgiveness is recognizing that sometimes we are looking to the other person to accomplish something on our agenda. Forgiveness is releasing others from our agenda and letting them be who they are. 

The Vibration of Self Love

How you feel about yourself has a lot to do with how others feel about you. When we have a thoroughly good relationship with ourselves we run, jump, dance, and love, but there is nothing compulsive about it. We are okay with who we are, and we are okay with who others are. When we are in full appreciation of ourselves, we can respond with love and compassion in all instances. Self love creates the vibration of love in our lives."

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