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Mary E. Vandenack: Living Single

LIVING A HAPPY AND LOVE-FILLED LIFE AS A SINGLE

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If you want to have a relationship, don’t give into the idea that there is no one out there. Believe that there is. Simply find patience and avoid desperation. Find happiness while you are looking. Desperation and loneliness result in poor choices. Pursue your path. Live well. You are most likely to meet someone that will be a good fit for you if you meet them doing something you want to be doing. The best relationships and friendships that I have had are those with guys I met who were present on the same path that I was walking.
 

Instead of connecting for the purpose of “finding someone”, consider connecting with people because you are interested in who they are. People are fascinating. I made a decision a few years ago to simply focus on connecting with people. I spent more time asking questions, listening, and caring. I took the time to get to know people that walked to the beat of a different drummer than I. I have developed some rewarding friendships that have filled my life with all kinds of love by simply learning to be interested in others rather than seeking to fill my own needs in connecting. You may or may not meet a special someone with the connection efforts but you will definitely fill your life.
 

I am not an advocate for divorce. In fact, despite TIMES magazine reporting that marriage is obsolete in the US, I still believe in it. Because I am divorced and remain single, I often get calls from someone struggling in a relationship. The caller usually seems surprised when I suggest that they do their very best to find a way to rediscover their love and re-invent their relationship using radical forgiveness and loving-kindness. .As my dad’s friend said, “A good marriage is the best of situations.” A struggling marriage does not mean divorce is inevitable. A good friend of mine often says, “More love is always the answer.”
 

“COMMITTING YOURSELF TO UNCONDITIONAL HAPPINESS WILL TEACH YOU EVERY SINGLE THING THERE IS TO LEARN ABOUT YOURSELF, ABOUT OTHERS, AND ABOUT THE NATURE OF LIFE.”

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